When you are communicating passively, you don't directly express your feelings, thoughts, and wishes.

You may try to communicate them indirectly by frowning, crying, or whispering something under your breath. Or you may withhold wishes entirely.

Some Common Behaviors Of This Communication Style Are:

Smiling even when unhappy

Making your own needs less important than others

Doing more than your share of listening

Making disclaimers ("I'm not sure." "I shouldn't say this but...")

Finding it difficult to make requests

When you are asked to do something you don't want to do, you are inclined to do it , or make an excuse instead of saying no

Speaking in a soft, wavering voice

Being at a loss for words

You may ramble, be vague, and use phrases like "I mean," and "You know?" often

Posture is likely to be slouched, hands may be cold, sweaty and fidgety.

Eye contact is difficult. You tend to look down or away

You often don't mean what you say, and it shows on your face.

The passive style of communication is usually used by victims of abuse. You may not be aware of your behavior, and may not feel that you have control over some parts of it.

Changing from a passive to assertive style of communication takes time and practice.

Some Characteristics Of This Style Of Problem Solving Are

When you solve problems in this communication style you allow other people to treat your thoughts and feelings in a way that they want to without challenging it. It also means doing what others want you to do regardless of your own decisions.

You are also dishonest about your emotions and try to manipulate others by giving them subtle "clues" and indirect communication.

You avoid problems.

You build anger and resentment.

You allow others to take advantage of you.

You talk only with respect for other people no matter what.

You let other people guess how you think and feel.

Your legitimate rights are relinquished.

You lack confidence.

You view the rights of others as superior to your own.

You hope that goals will be achieved, but rarely express or pursue them.

You don't ask for favors , but you hope that they will be done for you.

You let others choose activities for you.

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